Hugging is a No-No

Many things are prohibited in school because of health risks, security, or general respect for the school. Drugs, alcohol, and weapons are among some of the types of materials banned at schools to provide a more stable environment. However when things such as these get banned, many over the top procedures can take place, such as suspending students with a small plastic gun because it resembled a weapon (yes this did happen, here’s the article). However when is banning items and suspending children at school going too far? One school in New Jersey has this answer by enforcing an incredibly ridiculous rule at a particular middle school. Because of some “indecent physical interactions” between students at their school, Matawan- Aberdeen Middle School banned, you guessed it:


Tyler Blackmore, the priniple of Matawan-Aberdeen, issused as of recently a “no hugging” rule at his school. As the article suggests this could be a preemptive measure to stop new “Snookis” from polluting our future generations, however something as small as hugging should not be as “wrong” to where it has to be banned. Of course this new rule establish brought many complaints and negative feed back to the school. Was all this worth it? If a school most likely knew that people would complain and be aggravated over “no hugging”, why would they still do it? Eliminating something as small as hugging while knowing the harsh responses the school will get in return seems to say that this school, want kids to be more “lifeless”. Hugging will not cause or prevent the next Snooki from being born. It shows that this Middle School does not understand basic human behavior– humans need simple interactions like this. Whether it’s a friendly gesture, establishing a friendship or saying goodbye, hugs are important. This raises the question however, are more schools going to implement rules like this? Do we now have to worry about our children growing up in an anti-emotion school? From how our society looks, this might be the case.

Bonus! This is the video I first found the article on. It has other stories in at as well regarding the topic.



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6 responses to “Hugging is a No-No

  1. Dan Alykeev

    This just makes me laugh. Where is this world going? Hugging. Best friends. What’s next? Talking? We might as well start going back to being neanderthals. But this is probably just a one case in a million. And probably the principle of that New Jersey Middle School didn’t get enough hugs while he/she was at school, and now this principle is trying to pay back. Ha. Thank God, not all of the people are that ridiculous, and we will still have our precious hugs.

  2. Dylan Colburn

    i agree with Dan. What is so wrong with a hid having a bestfriend or hugging someone? I believe that the schools who are enforcing these rules need to take a step back and try and find their priorities. They should be trying to stop kids from bringing weapons into the school instead of trying to tell a kid they can’t have a bestfriend. Kids shoul dbe able to figure out for themselves who they are and who they want to be around. it should not be up to the principle or school authority figure to decided for them.

  3. Jared E.

    This appears to be another, too familiar, situation in modern society where a good intention is blinded by common sense. Yes, showing too much affection should not be allowed in school and the prevention of this was most likely the reasoning behind the principles decision. In the process of his decision, however, he evidently left common sense at the door. The even sadder issue in this situation is the reaction. This is something that in most previous generations would have been discussed among the school/community, found to be absurd, and then quickly and quietly resolved. Instead, in a society that feeds off of gossip and the next entertaining story it made national headlines. When wars are occurring around the world, the economy is near ruins, and the unsure future niche of America in this world are at decisive points, the country is talking about hugging rules for middle-school students. This country cannot continue to be apathetic toward real issues and instead consumed with trivial (at best) stories and continue to be a superpower of the world. It is time America, decide now, will be continue to be entertained and worried about these unimportant issues the media feeds for entertainment or will we regain our status as a real nation concerned with real issues?

  4. haleyewatts

    I agree, this does seem a little extreme. However, in some cases it’s not just a friendly hug. As far as relationships go, it may have been a problem with them “latching” onto each other and being late to class over it. It also could lead to more than just a hug. I understand it’s just middle school, but lets be honest, kids are starting younger and younger with being too “involved” in relationships. There is nothing wrong with giving a hug to your friends because most of the time those are side hugs anyway. Kids are starting to be less respectful these days so I think staff members, teachers, and principals have to do everything they can to stay in control.

  5. christiwilson19

    I totally agree with you Haley, it does sound pretty crazy to ban hugging from a school, but I think sometimes kids are asking for it. Thirteen and fourteen year olds are becoming so involved with their most likely “temporary boyfriends” and becoming pregnant because of that. I’m not saying every middle schooler is like that, but more and more are showing too much affection too fast. If banning hugging while at school helps prevent kids from becoming too romantic with each other then I am all for it. Kids are becoming less respectful, just like you said Haley, so different rules are most likely going to be inforced then what we were under while middle school.

  6. I think the real problem here isn’t the hugging ban. The underlying issue here is that such rules have to be implemented because students are engaging in inappropriate physical behavior because they are not taught moral guidelines at home and in schools. Much of this behavior can be traced back to the fact that morality, in general, is not as respected or promoted like it was in previous generations. This is not to say that people older than the “baby boomer” generation weren’t exposed to such behavior. No generation is perfect, but it seems that our generation is far too tolerant of immorality. Our society, in general, has been desensitized to some activities and lifestyles that would not have been tolerated 60 years ago. Granted, some of this toleration can be seen as positive (civil rights, etc.) In the present American trend to shy away from the Judeo-Christian principles her founding fathers believed in, society is left to govern itself; this makes the idea of moral relevance rather popular.
    Another reason it seems that children are engaging in inappropriate behavior is this: it is often because they don’t receive enough love and attention at home,thus they seek attention elsewhere. This can be very detrimental. Some young students find the acceptance the crave from gangs, the drug community, and heavily involved physical relationships.
    If all parents/guardians would love and teach (and demonstrate to) their children basic rules of morality, this “hugging ban” would likely be completely unnecessary.

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